It’s not uncommon this time of year for many people to feel sad and/or lonely. Of course, we all feel sad at times. But, it can get overwhelming for some, especially if everyone else around them seems full of holiday cheer. And what about loneliness during this season of family meals, office parties, and countless social events? We know that loneliness is often exacerbated during certain times of the year, and the Christmas season is one of those times.
Did you know that Britain has a Minister for Loneliness? Their job is to do something about loneliness, which Prime Minister Theresa May has tagged “the sad reality of modern life”. Loneliness is a serious issue. Studies have linked loneliness to medical problems including heart disease, diabetes, and cancer, to name a few. It certainly can play a role in suicide. And would it surprise you to hear that it negatively affects your brain and increases your risk of dementia?
If you’re experiencing loneliness, there are some steps you can take. Some may suggest that you just “pull yourself together and just get on with life”. But you know that it’s not quite that easy, right? You also must know that even with well meaning people around you, you are the only who can make the decision to change things. Here are a few things to try…
Join a Class
Join a class in something you love, like art, or music, or the outdoors. Join a club where you can expect to find like-minded people, where you can share ideas and make new friends who are doing the same thing you love doing. That will give you something to look forward to each week.
Volunteer
Volunteering for a cause you believe in and care deeply about can do wonders. There are orphanages, old age homes, animal shelters that desperately need help. Join up and bring joy to others. It will add meaning to your life, and help you develop a sense of thankfulness for all the good things you have in your life.
Find Support
Because loneliness is widespread, and on the rise, you’ll find others searching for people to connect to. Remember to be careful giving out personal information. Fortunately, there are legitimate online sites where you can make friends. There are also churches and other religious communities where you may be able to join groups and participate in activities that will help you feel you belong.
Strengthen Your Existing Relationships
You probably have people in your life already, some of whom you would love to get to know better. Call them up. Go out with them. Spend time together and strengthen those existing relationships.
Get a Pet (but not to give it away when your life improves)
Dogs and cats make great companions. They’ll befriend you, no matter what. When you rescue a pet from a shelter and bring it home, you’ll receive companionship. Just remember that it works both ways. Your pet needs exactly what you need — relief from loneliness. Don’t leave them alone for long periods of time. Give them as much attention as you’d like to get. That’s how it works. Take your dog for walks and join dog walking groups.
Speak to a Therapist and/or Speak to God about it
Sometimes, even getting out there and meeting people doesn’t conquer the feelings of loneliness. It can be comforting to know that there are experts who can help you, particularly if you feel depressed, and life holds no enjoyment for you. They’ll know how to help, with the right medications and advice to help you face life better and think more positively. You can also conquer loneliness with God’s help. The Bible can provide strength and hope — Deuteronomy 31:6 — Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.
Take your first step today.
